That’s right. You are living the best life you possibly can right now. Why? Because you have grown from your past mistakes and the future doesn’t exist yet. All we have is now. As far as now is concerned, you are doing your very best. Don’t allow anyone to tell you otherwise.
“What if I don’t like my life right now?” “What if I’m struggling to get by right now?”
Both are good questions and they are easily answered by just going through the first paragraph. Before you start wondering what I’m going on about, I have to dive deeper into the discussion.
Failures are our greatest triumphs
When Thomas Edison invented the light bulb, it took him appropriately 1000 attempts before he got it right. He never considered those attempts as failures but instead took them as learning opportunities. Whenever an attempt failed, he knew that approach wouldn’t work and would go back to the drawing board.
We could all learn something from Edison. Mistakes are building blocks to our inevitable triumph. Without mistakes, we wouldn’t even have a clue about what success feels like. It is these mistakes that make us choose better options/decisions for our prosperity.
One thing you should never do is regret your mistakes. They made you who you are right now. I have made some serious mistakes; others just stick to the back of your mind. But I never regret any of them. Were it not for one mistake I made in 2016, I wouldn’t be in this point of my life. I wonder what would have been different.
However, just because you made some mistakes in the past doesn’t mean you won’t make them now. Experience is good but there is always something new to be learned every single day. To create balance, don’t lean too much on previous experiences but instead look forward to learning how to do things differently.
There are 1000 ways to kill a cat (Don’t harm any cats though). It isn’t necessary for you to follow the footsteps of other individuals. What worked for them may not work for you. Seek to create your own unique experiences. Remember that you are an individual with an individual consciousness. Don’t be sheep.
Focus on the present
Who doesn’t hope for the best? We all live our lives now with the hope that tomorrow may present us with better opportunities. The downside to living like this is that we tend to put our focus in a time which is yet to, and may not, exist. I’m such a buzzkill. 😅
Here is the thing, things won’t get better tomorrow if you don’t make things better right now. You can’t expect to have a better life now when you can’t even try to better it now. It all begins right now. How do you expect to earn more money in the near future when you barely do anything now?
The funny thing about making changes in the present is that it doesn’t have to be drastic. Just small changes will eventually make a big difference in the future. For example, when you want to control your food intake, just reduce your food consumption by half. See that plate you love to fill whenever you want to eat? Just slash it in half and see the wonders. I haven’t even mentioned you going to the gym or doing regular workouts. Just changing your eating habits could change everything. It could work so successfully that the need to go to a gym becomes null and void.
For a better future, make better changes in the present. You can’t control the future but you definitely can control your present situation.
It takes commitment
It’s easier said than done. You might think that making small changes is an easy task to do but it really isn’t. As a matter of fact, it’s the hardest thing you can ever do.
Back to our eating habits example, you might find that slashing your consumption by half is inconceivable in your brain. This is because your brain has been hardwired to know that you need to eat to your fill, just like a regular African parent always encourages their child. And we wonder why kids are obese from a young age.
The good thing is that you can change your way of thinking but it will take commitment. Like three months for it to be your normal routine. I know some of you are wondering how you can survive three months when tackling it once is a hard task.
There is a decent trick that I learned from Marissa Peer. It involves you having a conversation with your brain. Whenever you feel like giving up, remind yourself why you are doing whatever you are doing. For example, you are working out to have that banging body and you are mid-way through your workout but you feel like you can’t go any further. Just remind yourself that the body you want to have won’t come by quitting and that it is good for your overall health and well-being.
What happens next is amazing. You will find yourself finishing the workouts feeling better than ever. There are instances when you may fail to finish but you will definitely come close. The aim isn’t to finish what is expected of you but just to go the extra mile than what your mind tells you. Greatness is found at the end of your comfort zone.
This post should have only consisted of the first paragraph only. It’s that self-explanatory. Since I had to explain everything exhaustively, I’ll refer you back to the first paragraph again. Makes more sense now right?