I’ll give it to you right now: Be you. It’s that simple but it’s not that simple to implement. That’s what this post is all about; trying to explain why being you can be the easiest yet complicated thing you can ever do in life.
Ignorance isn’t bliss
There is this common saying which I like. It says “Don’t bring a knife to a gunfight”. In all that you do, don’t venture into it without some background knowledge. Don’t be too quick into starting a business if you don’t understand how to create a good one. Don’t be too quick to jump into a relationship if you don’t know what you want from it.
Some will say that they will figure things out as time goes by. That, by all means, is okay but it will be longer than just doing some research on whatever you want to do. There is a learning curve to everything. Yes, you can be a better entrepreneur with time (because of experience) but you’ll be a good entrepreneur from the get-go if you know what needs to be done.
All I’m saying is that you should always know what you are getting yourself into. Lucky for us in this digital era, there are online classes available for everything. Just the other day I was seeing a tutorial of how to study efficiently. They were useful tips that I plan to use this semester. I have also seen ads on Facebook telling you how to be rich. Trust me, if you want to venture into any field, there are classes about it.
While I do recommend those classes (because they are great) there is a downside to it.
The good student paradox
If you have ever watched The 3 Idiots, you know where I’m going with this.
What I love about the movie is how it portrays students trying their very best to have the best grades but they rarely apply the knowledge they get from their classes. Think back to the opening scenes of the movie when Rancho locked himself in the room to avoid some bullies. They threatened to pee on his door if he did not come out. What he did next was the funniest thing I have ever seen.
Instead of panicking about someone peeing on his hostel room door, he quickly wound up a live electric wire to a spoon and slid it under the door. When one of the bullies started peeing, he got the shock of his life. Sorry, I couldn’t help it. Everyone knows urine contains water, which is a good conductor of electricity. Rancho applied the knowledge.
What is the lesson to be learned here? Even if you do all the classes that will help in a particular venture, how will you apply it your own situation? This also applies for the self-improvement books. The main problem with whatever content these wonderful give you is that it is based on their experience. They learned these key insights through their own experiences. And as I have mentioned before, there are 7 billion people in the world meaning there are 7 billion experiences out there. There is a really small chance of that 1 experience to change everything about your life.
Think of it this way, what works for you probably won’t work for me. Another man’s food is another man’s poison. What now?
Back to the drawing board
It’s funny how you somehow remain the same person after learning helpful insights on various ventures. I can testify this to you. After reading Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by John Gray, I didn’t turn into the best guy in the world. What it actually did is made me more understanding.
These insights don’t change you as a person; they just make you more aware of the decisions you make which in turn will determine your future. It’s that simple. Even if you were to be told all the secrets of the universe today, there is a greater chance of you of making better choices than you transforming into God.
It is at this point I refer you back to the first paragraph. Just be you. Handle your stuff the best way you possibly can.