There are these times in life when you just feel low. At times you feel like everything is going to shit. I have a term for such moments,though I got it from a book. These are called Kensho moments. If I’m to be honest, there is nothing much you can do when such moments arise; they just happen. You can’t force things to go back to how they were. So, what do you do?
It is important to understand that everyone has such moments. Just like how a sine wave goes up and down. Consider it as nature’sway of balancing things out. There is no real explanation to why it happens; it just does. So, don’t overthink things about who you offended or what you did wrong. What you should do in such times is take a breather and reflect on things.
Many wise people have mentioned about how it matters not what happens to you but rather how you respond to it. The reaction to the action is of more importance than the action itself. Remember how Jesus talked about giving the other cheek when someone slaps you? Same case here. Just because you’re having a bad day (or two or even a week) doesn’t mean everything is wrong with the world. Quite the contrary, everything is going according to plan.
Think of Kensho moments as turning points of your life. They either make you or break you at the end of it all. How you go about it is up to you. Again, the reaction is all that matters. Will you crawl in your bed and sob it out or get up and stick to your beliefs? I can’t tell you how difficult it is to stick to your beliefs during these moments. It always feels like nothing is working and that you are helpless. Not a good feeling.
I’ll tell you how I get through my bad days. I just remind myself of who I am right now and who I want to be. This is done by reading through my vision board. It has all of my dreams and ambitions and going through it gives me a new sense of hope and determination to push through. Words fail me when trying to describe the feeling. The closest comparison is when your favorite football team wins a huge derby match. Something like that.
After reading through it all, all the worries and all the doubts that I had in my mind suddenly disappear. All I feel is excitement. It’s a weird feeling because we always look for external causes of excitement. This time,however, you made yourself excitement. That, probably, is the best feeling in the world.
Let it be known that this is not the only way to overcome Kensho moments. People have different experiences every day; mine is just one of 7 billion ways. What do you do when you feel low? And no, don’t do things that will harm you or other people in the process. The Golden Rule still applies. What do you do that makes you feel good about yourself that other people also notice?
Think through it as I end this article. When you do find one or two activities, try them out the next time you feel low. It might be reading a book; meditating; or even taking a jog in the park. Whatever it is, do it. At the end of it all, you’ll feel better than before. Besides, it will only get better won’t it?